Always return to #calm after a #storm.
I’ve been practising this lately. Every day always really, but more intently as of late.
And what a #difference I’ve found that a simple #pause can make.
There is a #moment, brief as it is where we have the option of #choosing. How to #react to something, or whether to react at all. It’s a little social #experiment that I’ve been conducting on myself; and the result data is pretty #impressive, I have to say.
It doesn’t mean that we cease caring about anything. It doesn’t mean that we become robotic and cold. Not at all. In fact, I’ve found the opposite; that what I feel within myself, and what I see in the world is #validated each and every day. With all of the unpleasantries happening around us, the one constant that remains untouched is always #love. In one form or another, it’s #timeless, isn’t it?
That simple little #choice to react or wait; and see if in a few days’ time we really feel the same way.
After a tragedy occurs; how people come #together for each other’s support. Be it a flood or any other kid of loss.
It’s wonderful example of how we could walk in the world. Will it really matter, whatever it is that upsets is now; will it really matter at the end of our days, when we’re taking our last few breaths?
If so, carry on.
But if not, please pause for a few moments; and realise that there is always a return to calm after the storm.
Feeling inspired to write tonight, I opened up my laptop to look through some notes that I’d begun keeping last year for some ideas.
Part of a speech by Pema Chodron came up to view randomly. She’s one of my favorite people, the only American to become a Buddhist Nun; but I’m not Buddhist so that’s not the reason that I like her work. She’s also very practical and matter-of-fact. She came from a typical life like us; she’s been divorced twice, dealt with substance abuse and depression. Just like “real people”. And I think that the below is one of my favorite reminders to hold a larger perspective on life. To let EVERYTHING in, to let it all come and go; and to actually embrace the difficult times. Because that will always teach us something. Most of us now already know that for ourselves, first-hand.
So here’s to shit happening. And here’s to us begin able to recognise that it too, can be a guru for us.
"In life, we think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem.
The truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart.
Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that.
Personal discovery and growth come from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.
Suffering comes from wishing things were different.
Misery is self inflicted, when we are expecting the “ideal” to overcome the “actual,” or needing things (or people, or places) to be different for us so we can then be happy.
Let the hard things in life break you.
Let them effect you.
Let them change you. Let these hard moments inform you.
Let this pain be your teacher.
The experiences of your life are trying to tell you something about yourself.
Don’t cop out on that. Don’t run away and hide under your covers.
Lean into it.
What is the lesson in this wind?
What is this storm trying to tell you? What will you learn if you face it with courage?
With full honesty and — lean into it.”
#pemachodron #truth #reality
What a night in suburban Detroit.
One city received over twice its average monthly rainfall in one day.
This morning, I noticed many destroyed personal possessions at the curbside of my street; victims to flooded basements last night. I feel for those affected’s sense of loss, and am grateful that my end of my street is high and I and my neighbors were all OK.
However, the image that is stuck in my head was what my headlights illuminated last night as friend and I were driving back from checking on their house a few miles away.
As we drove down their street, a few of the people that live around each other out on the sidewalk, having drinks, snacks, talking and laughing. Amongst all of their basements totally flooded out, one of them lost a brand new bamboo floor and furniture, etc that they had in their finished basement. My friends’ basement was flooded as well, having had water actually pouring in through the basement windows at grade level.
And yet here they all were, hanging out with each other on the sidewalk, while the police and tow trucks were helping those whose vehicles were disabled in the middle of the street, laughing, sharing repair company telephone numbers, etc. I met these people, and they were all wonderful; even amidst the destruction that they were going through.
And I thought that this is what really matters.
What a great example of the stuff that really matters and of holding a larger #perspective; a larger frame of reference.
It’s not easy to do, recognising and holding this frame of reference about life.
Not even for an internationally-known comedian and actor.
But it’s so worth it.
See, we always have a #choice.
We’ve no control over what happens outside of ourselves.
Yet we have complete control over our response to #life.
We have complete control over realising what really matters and what doesn’t.
Sometimes a natural disaster like a flood can provide that #perspective for us.
Here’s to #us.
O me! O life!.. Of the questions of these recurring; of the endless trains of the faithless…of cities filled with the foolis; what good amid these, O me, O life?” Answer. That you are here-that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes ok and you may contribute a verse. That the powerful play “goes on” and you may contribute a verse. What will YOUR verse be?
Robin Williams was found dead today, of an apparent suicide. He’s been struggling with depression and substance abuse for years.
There is always, always, always an underlying reason for substance abuse. And it usually goes back a long way. But there is help available. Always available. You’re never alone.
The national Suicide Prevention Hotline is 1.800.273.8255.
The National Substance Abuse Recovery Hotline is 1.888.299.7166.
Please know that it doesn’t have to be this way, and that there are many people that have been there and that can help.
God bless you, Robin Williams. May you find some peace at home now. We’ll miss you.
Inspired this morning, before heading out to NY I picked up the guitar for the first time in a couple of weeks, and the below came out of nowhere.
I think that it’s ironic, sad and important that Graham Nash’s words are as meaningful today as they were in 1970. May we never give up the fight for love and peace.
You, who are on the road
must have a code that you can live by.
because the past is just a good bye.
Teach your children well,
their father’s hell did slowly go by,
them on your dreams,
the one they fix, the one you’ll know by.
Don’t you ever ask them why, if they told you, you would cry,
So just look at them and sigh and know they love you.
of the tender years
can’t know the fears
that your elders grew by,
And so please
help them with your youth,
they seek the truth
before they can die.
your parents well,
their children’s hell will slowly go by,
And feed them on your dreams,
the one they fix,the one you’ll know by.
Don’t you ever ask them why,
if they told you, you would cry,
So just look at them and sigh and know they love you.