The cloud formations on my way back to the hotel after a long workday in the #Hudson #Valley perfectly represent how I want to remember the events of thirteen years ago today.
A little #darkness, surrounded by much more #light.
To me, this represents #humanity.
The tragic loss of life on 11 September 2001 will be forever etched in our history and in our hearts.
But there is #hope.
Hope that one day, we’ll no longer #fear each other. No more need for war. That one day, we’ll #understand that we all come from the same place. The same spark of creation. Underneath it all.
That we’re all the #same.
We may not be there yet.
But we’re on the way.
And it can’t come soon enough.
Here’s to more light than dark for us all. (at New York State Thruway)
10 September 2014 is known as World #Suicide #Prevention Day.
Far too often we miss the warning signs of impending #suicide behavior; both within those close to us and also within our own selves.
No one is immune to having thoughts that ending their life is the only way out of the #emotional #turmoil that they’re experiencing. It doesn’t matter where we live, what language we speak, or how much money and fame we might have.
Suicide does not discriminate.
But there is help available. There are things that we can do.
Learn about the suicide warning signs, such as:
Talking about wanting to die or to kill themselves.
Looking for a way to kill themselves, such as searching online or buying a gun
Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
Talking about being a burden to others.
Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
Sleeping too little or too much.
Withdrawing or isolating themselves.
Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
Displaying extreme mood swings.
If anyone you know or you yourself experience any of the above warning signs, please reach out to the National US Lifeline at 800.273.8255 or Michigan’s Common Ground Crisis Line at 800.231.1127.
No matter how #alone you may feel, it’s never that way. There are people here to help. There is always another answer. You’re here for a reason, and nobody else can take your place.
What does this mean to you, this word “sincerity”?
Often, we see this word used in sentences that are directed at other people. Like “They’re SO insincere it’s not even funny.”
Have you ever noticed an unusual occurrence where an external situation that we’re in is reflecting a condition that we might be in ourselves?
Have you ever caught that similarity between something that’s happening in our lives and how WE ourselves might be?
It’s called projection.
And if there is any truth at all to the suggestion that we attract what we put out there, then perhaps there is also something here to look at.
We attract people and situations around us that are compatible with whatever condition we’re in. That only stands to reason, right? Sort of like this external projection of our internals.
But that’s how we work; that’s what we do.
So… why then? Why do we do what we do?
“If you want to be the change that you want to see in the world, begin in your own backyard”
A ton of truth in that one.
So we need to give ourselves a break here and stop the struggle so that we can come to terms with the possibility that it may just be us struggling against ourselves in many areas of our lives. Nothing else, nobody else. Just us.
And then we can begin to take a look at this struggle. What it is, how long we’ve been doing it and WHY we’re doing it.
So the sincerity just begins with us.
Us just becoming clear about who we are, and what we want.
We begin there, and if our own sincerity is what we can learn to project out, just imagine the poissibilities.
Russell Brand recently made what I thought was an eloquent statement about the death of Robin Williams.
Brand said that he felt that Williams just didn’t know himself well enough. That he felt that Williams let things in his life get to the point where they became scary and confusing because he didn’t know himself well enough.
I couldn’t agree more.
Here’s to the grace and work of getting to know the person in the mirror. It’s one of the most important things that we’ll ever do with our lives.
Tonight I had two separate articles cross my laptop dealing with similar content; working through #sadness.
Being one to take a cue of something is up for presentation, I thought I’d share the following in case it struck a chord with anyone out there, as it did for me once upon a time.
The last thing most of us want to hear or think about when we are dealing with profound feelings of sadness is that some sort of deep learning can be found in this place. In the midst of our pain, we often feel picked on by life, or overwhelmed by the enormity of some loss, or simply too exhausted to try and examine the situation. We might feel far too disappointed and angry to look for anything resembling a bright side to our suffering. Still, somewhere in our hearts, we know that we will eventually emerge from the depths into the light of some kind of greater awareness. Remembering this truth, no matter how elusive it seems at the time, can help.
The other thing we often would rather not hear when we are dealing with intense sadness is that the only way out of it is through it. Sitting with our sadness takes the courage to believe that we can bear the pain and the faith that we will come out the other side. With some measure of courage, we can allow ourselves to cycle through the grieving process with full #permission to experience it. This is a powerful teaching that sadness has to offer us—the ability to surrender and that the #acceptance of #change go hand in hand.
One more thing that sadness can teach us is #compassion for others who are in pain; because it is only in feeling our own pain that we can really understand and allow for someone else’s. Sadness is something we all go through, and we all learn from it and are deepened by its presence in our lives. While our own individual experiences of sadness carry with them unique lessons, the implications of what we learn are universal. The wisdom we gain from going through the process of feeling #loss, #heartbreak, or deep #disappointment gives us access to the heart of #humanity; to the rest of us.